The best advice I could give anyone
I am 55.
I have had type 2 diabetes for 10 years.
I have smoked approx 20 cigarettes a day for almost 35 years.
In the past I abused alcohol in a serious way.
Late last year I got the results of blood tests which "suggest" I have CLL/Leukemia.
It is 90% certain that making it to c. 60 to 65 before dying is the best I can hope for.
The best advice I could give anyone about life:
Always try to think, think and think again before acting.
Remember that to be able to regularly delay gratification is sign of maturity and in the long term results in greater happiness.
Remember that in most people's lives (especially us spoiled people in the wealthy western world) 99 plus % of events that happen day by day are VERY trivial; it is irrational to stress out and worry about such trivial, small events. In most people's lives, real serious, tragic events are quite rare. It is almost never the end of the world when a person makes a mistake or when another person does not like you. If one continually does not over-react to trivial events then one does not get un-necessarily emotionally upset and is much more likely to respond and act calmly and appropriately.
The best way to fight self pity and resentments is to daily think of and reflect on all those things one can be grateful for.
Reflect on that the world's billionaires can still only sleep on one bed and eat 3 meals a day.
Genuinely spiritual people be they Christian, Muslim or Jewish etc who have a relationship with God and strive to use what abilities, skills and money and time etc they have to often selflessly help others are often the most happy people in the world.
I think most people at the end or towards the end of their life do not think back and have regrets about, for example, not retiring on a bigger superannuation policy pay out or not owning an investment property and so on; I think most people at that stage of life will look back on what ever happy and loving relationships they had (or did not have) with other people.
Also, I believe that quote in an Evelyn Waugh novel is true : the greatest wisdom comes from truly knowing and loving another human being.
That will do for now.
I have had type 2 diabetes for 10 years.
I have smoked approx 20 cigarettes a day for almost 35 years.
In the past I abused alcohol in a serious way.
Late last year I got the results of blood tests which "suggest" I have CLL/Leukemia.
It is 90% certain that making it to c. 60 to 65 before dying is the best I can hope for.
The best advice I could give anyone about life:
Always try to think, think and think again before acting.
Remember that to be able to regularly delay gratification is sign of maturity and in the long term results in greater happiness.
Remember that in most people's lives (especially us spoiled people in the wealthy western world) 99 plus % of events that happen day by day are VERY trivial; it is irrational to stress out and worry about such trivial, small events. In most people's lives, real serious, tragic events are quite rare. It is almost never the end of the world when a person makes a mistake or when another person does not like you. If one continually does not over-react to trivial events then one does not get un-necessarily emotionally upset and is much more likely to respond and act calmly and appropriately.
The best way to fight self pity and resentments is to daily think of and reflect on all those things one can be grateful for.
Reflect on that the world's billionaires can still only sleep on one bed and eat 3 meals a day.
Genuinely spiritual people be they Christian, Muslim or Jewish etc who have a relationship with God and strive to use what abilities, skills and money and time etc they have to often selflessly help others are often the most happy people in the world.
I think most people at the end or towards the end of their life do not think back and have regrets about, for example, not retiring on a bigger superannuation policy pay out or not owning an investment property and so on; I think most people at that stage of life will look back on what ever happy and loving relationships they had (or did not have) with other people.
Also, I believe that quote in an Evelyn Waugh novel is true : the greatest wisdom comes from truly knowing and loving another human being.
That will do for now.
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